Hello beautiful! I hope you are having a wonderful day. Today I am going to be talking about something a little out of my comfort zone that I felt very called to share. That my friend is confidence. Confidence is something we all strive for. We want to feel empowered, uplifted, strong and like we have the tools to navigate life with ease. But confidence goes a little deeper and there are many many many things that affect your confidence. I would say that I am a pretty confident person. I have a good sense of self and I don’t let the opinions of others get to me. A friend once asked me, “how are you so confident?” The answer was simple, I live to my truest self and I don’t look to others for confidence, I turn inward. But realistically I do not feel 100% confident all the time. I mean, does anyone? Sometimes my confidence wavers and recently I wasn’t feeling like myself. Needless to say, my confidence was shakey. When I took a second to reflect, I found myself unmotivated, unhealthy, and truly just kinda lazy. Which
I usually don’t feel like this and quickly found the answer to why. Over the summer I was pressed for time. I was working 2 jobs that left no time for myself. I would wake up each morning around 6:00 and teach from 6:30 to-9:00. Then I would nanny from 11:00- 5:30, have a few hours to eat dinner and hang out with my family, then teach night classes from 8:30- after midnight!! I would also teach moring and nights on Saturdays and Sundays too. It was hectic. It took a toll on my mental and physical health. I was so busy that I was eating like crap, not sleeping, and never had time to relax. When I did have free time it was spent laying on the couch because I was exhausted. I love being busy and on a schedule but this was a lot for me, and I’m not embarrassed to say it drained me. I didn’t feel like myself because I didn’t have time for myself, which took a majorrrrr toll on my confidence. I felt to unmotivated even with my blog and sharing outfits, which affected my creativity. This made me so sad because this is my passion and my escape. I could write for my blog and work on my website for hours because it makes me so genuinely happy.
So after reflecting, here’s what I found.
I was treating my body like crap – not exercising or eating well so I gained a few pounds and overall didn’t feel good/like myself.
I wasn’t holding myself accountable- I never made time for myself so I became lazy and exhausted. This affected my motivation and creativity leading me to lose accountability with myself on my blog and Instagram.
Zero self-care- the only thing I made time for was my skincare but I was barely sleeping so my whole body/ routine were off. I just felt so gross!!! Self-care to me is getting sleep, taking care of your skin, reading, exercising, practicing gratitude, eating well, etc. Yeah… not a lot of this was happening…
So here is what I’m leaving you with. The key to self-confidence is to live as your truest self. It all starts with YOU. Trying to cover up who you are and hide your uniqueness will drain your self-confidence. Do the things you love, do what makes you feel good, and keep the promises you make with yourself. DO NOT TURN TO OTHERS FOR CONFIDENCE, all you have do is look within. Not everyone is going to like you, don’t waste time and energy trying to please others. Use that time on yourself, getting closer to your goals and living the life you want. Breaking promises you have made with yourself leads to insecurity. It is so important to keep yourself accountable. Having trust in yourself that you will follow through with your tasks will create self-confidence. As The Skinny Confidential says “self-trust = self-confidence.” Most importantly, take care of yourself!!! Do the things that make you feel like your truest self. This is where you will flourish the most!
I started writing this blog post in early September when I wasn’t really feeling like myself. I got myself in check over the past month and feel 100% like myself again. I am sticking to weekly blog posts, I am more, active, eating healthier, and am practicing way more self-care. I feel confident and so genuinely happy, to be honest! I want to remind everyone reading this to stop and reflect every so often. Practice gratitude, I swear everything gets better in life when you are thankful for what you have rather than what you don’t. Just remember you have the tools to be happy and do whatever you want in life! I’m so happy I got to share this with you guys and really hope that it resonated with some of you! Well, that’s all for this week! Thanks for reading, have a great weekend darling!!